how to manage your guestlist
Step 1: Set The size of your wedding
Are you looking to have 25 people there or 250? This is completely your choice. It will determine so many things: venue, cost of food, intimacy level, party level, etc. If you have your dream venue lined up, you can also start with what the venue accepts and use that as your parameter.
Step 2: Make a List of Everyone You Could Possibly Invite
And I mean EVERYONE. Your entire family. All of your friends. EVERYONE. They’re all going to ask to come anyways, just write them all down. Writing them down at this point doesn’t mean you’re inviting them. It just means that if you had an unlimited number of people you could invite, they’d be on the list. Personally, I do this in Excel and add columns for number of people – do they get a plus one? – and a separate column for number of children.
step 3: cull the list
We put the people we were “cutting” further down the excel sheet in case we changed our mind. I recommend doing this in steps.First, your automatic “no”s. Get them out right away.
Second, anybody you wouldn’t miss on your big day. Third, cousin twice removed you only see at Christmas and barely know? Take them off the list. Its OK.
At this point, check your numbers. Are you close to or below your desired number of guests? Then you’re good. If not, you now need to be more discerning. Did you invite Joe because he’s a party animal, but you haven’t seen him in three years? Maybe cut him out. Do you not care if there are kids there? It’s a great way to cut down on people! Plus, your friends may enjoy a night out without the kids.
4. talk to your family
5. Finalize Your List
Step 6: Order and Mail Your Invitations!